So, I recently setup a DIA account. It's not usually my thing to search for girls online in PI before my trips as I'm neither looking for anything long time nor serious. However, as I'm heading to Cebu, for the first time, during the New Year's Holiday, I was advised by many board members here that many Cebu girls are on DIA and I decided to finally check it out.
Just want to do a basic inquiry about the site to those who have quite a bit of experience with DIA.
I like to be very straightforward, honest, and direct with all the women I meet during my travels in Asia and I have no problem putting everything below on the table:
- Never married
- No kids
- Single
- Happy being single
- Not looking for a girlfriend
- Not looking for a serious relationship, or any relationship
- I value my freedom, independence, and alone time
I don't mislead, lead on, or give false hope. For the most part, this has worked well for me because there's no misunderstandings and everything is known up-front.
Now, to apply this to DIA.
It comes as no surprise that most of these young ladies are looking for a serious relationship as I've learned during my fist few hours during my first trip to PI that the Filipinas really try to win your heart. In fact, even when I lay out all of the bullet points above, a key difference between the Thai vs. Filipina ladies is that a Thai lady in the P4P scene will say, "Oh, I understand, you're on holiday, you're here to have fun. You're a butterfly man.". On the other hand, a Filipina might say, "Well, you might want someone to take care of you when you get old".
I only plan on being in Cebu for six or seven nights. I've been informed in another Cebu thread that I've got going that while there is a night scene, it's not the same as AC and that using DIA is just another option to use.
In the brief messaging encounters I've had with some DIA cuties from Cebu, I've been up-front that I'm not looking for anything serious and looking for people to meet and get to know during my short stay when I visit Cebu. I will probably focus on this more as my trip approaches, perhaps even while in the Philippines as many of these girls are quite chatty.
So, despite all the girls looking for a boyfriend, relationship, and more, etc. on their profiles, if I'm chatting with a nice young attractive lady, how well does the straight-forwardness work? Not everyone on the site is in the P4P scene of course, but if I'm pretty straight forward about my not looking for a girlfriend, relationship, just visiting for a few days, seeking enjoyment for a short-time stay, etc., will this get the message across? Or do I need to be more specific?
I'm asking because I don't want any drama and I don't want to lead anyone on. While many girls are single and have hope to find a nice foreigner to take care of them and more, I'm sure there are many that are up to a short-term gig in between.
What are some do's and don'ts with respect to this?
How do you avoid insulting someone who might not be into P4P?
(I've seen some very obvious posts such as the following:
So my key questions is, can DIA used for a short-time arrangement, and if so, to what degree of spelling this out is necessary and what is mutually implied?